Thursday, September 29, 2011

Time to say goodbye!

Well gosh darn it! Looks like it's time to say goodbye to Governor Rick Perry. He continues to slip in the polls and now he's continually back tracking and apologizing for all of the "brilliant comments" he's blurting during the debates. I'd like to dedicate this beautiful song to you as we continue to watch your campaign implode.


Oh, and by the way, desperation is never flattering!  Get out before you embarrass yourself any further. Many already know of your closeted ways and I hope we see the day that you are exposed for being the ultimate homophobic hypocrite!

So is it time for New Jersey Governor Chris Christie to throw his "large" hat in the ring?  Maybe! The press is saying we'll know in about a week. Oh Goodie!!

Unfortunately, I wont be a fan!

But I will look forward to your weighing in on the health care debate!


Happy primary season everyone!

Jeran

Friday, September 16, 2011

Dumb ass of the week award!

Actually two members of the U.S House of Representative's will share in the "dumb ass of the week award."

Two GOP House members are making an embarrassingly desperate plea to Leon Panetta, Secretary of Defense, to postpone the Sept. 20th repeal of the Military's "Don't Ask Don't Tell" policy.

House Armed Serivces Committee Chairman Buck Mckeon (R-CA) and house member Joe Wilson (R-SC) are basically saying the Military has not adequately prepared for the repeal of DADT, and more time is needed to conduct further studies.
The official response from the Pentagon, "DENIED!"


In fact, General Carter Ham, who was the co-chair of the Pentagon's study group examining the effects of repealing DADT, said he felt lifting the ban was likely to prove "pretty inconsequential." and went on to say the military's approach is "business as usual."


Last ditch desperation is never flattering! Sorry guys!  Welcome to the 21st Century!


Jeran



Monday, September 12, 2011

breaking down my stereotypes

I love meeting remarkable people!

I met this woman, Dorothy, yesterday at Cheyenne Interfaith's 9/11 memorial service at the Wyoming State Capital. I must admit that I was shocked to see an elderly woman wearing a rainbow "Diversity" pin.

Even though I would like to say that I don't lump people into categories or form my own stereotype's; I would be lying if I said that I didn't ignore seniors, as a group, when it comes to advancing the LGTB Equality Movement. 

I figured they were all "set in their ways" and holding on to their bigoted views of marriage. SHAME ON ME!!

I was able to visit with my good friend, Rodger McDaniel, who writes the blog Blowing in the Wyoming Wind, and he cautioned me about being so quick to judge. He said many times after he delivers a sermon or speaks out on equality he will have seniors come up and thank him for his message of love and tolerance. Wow! Who knew?

I learned a valuable lesson yesterday, and I'm grateful for the enlightenment! You'd think of all people, I'd be the last to try and lump another group into a small narrow box. I'm a work in progress; and would like to think that my tiny brain was expanded just a little bit yesterday! Thank you Dorothy!



Jeran

An email we received at WY Equality asking for help.


Hi - I’m the Policy Research Director at the Movement Advancement Project (MAP) (www.lgbtmap.org), which is a national think tank organization that is focused on LGBT issues and policy. I’m reaching out to see if you might be able to help us, and would so appreciate it if you would take a moment to see if you can!

MAP is collaborating with the Center for American Progress and the Family Equality Council to co-author a series of reports that highlight how being part of an LGBT family in the U.S. creates unique challenges.

For an upcoming report on how government safety net programs are failing children who live in LGBT families that includes policy recommendations, we are specifically looking for stories that include the following:
                                                                                                                                                        
·        LGBT-headed families who have had challenges with accessing government safety net programs like TANF, SNAP, School Lunch, WIC, and children’s Medicaid and health programs, SSI, child care assistance, public housing, and early childhood programs like Head Start. 
·        Challenges might have resulted from the way that family was defined, income restrictions, legal recognition of parents, discrimination during the application process, or other reasons.
·        We are particularly interested in stories that also include special issues for transgender parents, and added challenges and unique experiences of LGBT families of color, rural families, and immigrant LGBT families.
·        Finally, given the recent 2010 census data for the 12 top states where LGBT parents are raising children, we are particularly interested in stories from Mississippi, Wyoming, Alaska, Arkansas, Texas, Louisiana, Oklahoma, Kansas, Alabama, Montana, South Dakota, and South Carolina.

Our goal is to include fresh, compelling stories of real LGBT families that will give the report emotional resonance and might also be used to gain media attention. The stories can already be in written form or could be shared with us in telephone interviews. They can be stories already covered by the media, but new, unfeatured stories are a bonus. Attribution of the stories can range from sharing them anonymously to the possibility of speaking to the media as part of the report rollout in the Winter of 2012.

Because our report focuses on the entire family, we’re only looking for same-sex parents who are raising kids.

If you have any stories to share would you just reply to this email so that we can set up a time to talk?  And, if you don’t but know of others that might (e.g. faith-based, legal or other LGBT orgs), would you please forward this for me? 

Thank you so much for any help you can give!

--Laura

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Movement Advancement Project
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p.s.  Here is an example of a story that we wrote up, adapted from an academic article:

Family Left Destitute After Being Denied Social Security Survivor Benefits

In 1998, Nicolaj Caracappa was born through donor insemination to New Jersey couple Eva Kadray and Camille Caracappa. Eva gave birth to Nic, who was given Camille’s last name and baptized in Camille’s Catholic faith. Eva became a stay-at-home mom while Camille continued working as an oncology nurse. The couple wanted a second child. They consulted a lawyer about completing a second-parent adoption of Nic by Camille, but they decided to wait until their second child was born so they could adopt both children at the same time. Yet they never got the chance. When Nic was two years old, Camille left for work one day and never came home. She suffered a brain aneurysm and was dead by nightfall.

Eva applied for child Social Security survivor benefits for Nic. Those benefits—many thousands of dollars a year—are designed to compensate a child for the economic loss of a parent. The benefits were denied because Camille had not been Nic’s legal parent. If New Jersey had simply recognized Camille as Nic’s legal parent upon his birth, the result would have been different. Nic’s emotional catastrophe—the loss of a parent—would not have been compounded by economic catastrophe—the loss of all the family’s income.

Sunday, September 11, 2011

I will never forget!

I will never forget getting up and turning on the TV 10 years ago. I couldn't believe what I was seeing!

As I watch the news this morning and the recaps of that day; and how we've changed as a nation over the last 10 years, I find a lump swelling in my throat and tears welling up in my eyes once again.

I have my little snits about politics and issues that are near and dear to my heart, but the truth is, I love this country and I know how lucky I am to be a United States Citizen! As I reflect on this day, I will focus not on the terror, but the unity and patriotism that followed the attacks.

I remember the solidarity that enveloped this nation and the world after 9/11. I remember how democrats and republicans rallied and united together in hopes of making this country a safer place to live. I remember standing in line to buy a flag to fly on my house.

God bless the United States, our troops, our citizens, and especially the families that lost so much 10 years ago!




Jeran

Friday, September 9, 2011

A new class of bullies!

Everyone talks about being bullied at school, and while that is definitely not any fun, think about being bullied by the people that you love the most... YOUR FAMILY!

I want to address this issue and say how impressed I am that someone from such a conservative family can find the strength to talk about being gay and the fear his family has about his homosexuality.

First off, I will say that I'm very lucky! For the most part I have a wonderful and supportive family. I have great relationships with my parents, my cousins, aunts and uncles, and especially my brother and his family. In fact if I had known how they were going to react to me coming out, I probably wouldn't have waited as long as I did.

However, I have friends that are literally scared of their parents. My heart breaks for them! One friend in particular, who is a college student, and his parents hold him hostage with money. Saying things like, "I hate to see this person that you're developing into!" and, "Don't expect anymore help from us financially if you continue down this path!" I've held his hand as he has cried and tried to come to terms with his situation.

I have one friend, who after coming out, drove away from his house as his grandfather fired a shotgun at his car! I admire my friends who cope and thrive in the face of this because I'm not sure I could have done it.
When I came out I was trying to prepare myself for the "what if I lose everything?".... my friends, family, job, and luckily none of that happened.

So for those of you who are "strong in the faith" please continue to be supportive and caring for your friend's who need you the most! After all we never know when an understanding ear, or a "hang in there, it get's better!" might actually give someone the strength to get through one more day.

Jeran

Thursday, September 8, 2011

We're going to have a party!

Unless you've been living under a rock, as I tend to do from time to time, you know that the Military's repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell becomes official on September 20th. Here is a letter I've submitted to Wyoming Equality's Newsletter. I hope you will all put this on your calendar and plan on joining us for this event.

For all of my wonderful out of state readers, I would encourage you to organize a similar event in your town. We have a very large military base here in Cheyenne so we're hoping for a big crowd!


It’s time to celebrate!

Wyoming Equality Members and Allies,

In case you hadn’t heard September 20th marks the official end of the Military’s “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” policy. This is a huge milestone in our fight for LGTB equality across this country. We think that calls for a celebration!

What’s more, over the last year we’ve seen marriage equality arrive in New York State. President Obama’s Administration has decided to stop defending DOMA, and right here in Wyoming we defeated two very ugly anti-LGTB bills.  We’ve accomplished many great things over this last year and we want to throw a party to say thank you for helping us fight the good fight.

So, drum roll please… On Tuesday, September 20th from 6-10pm at the Historic Plains Hotel in Cheyenne we will be hosting this celebration. The cost of admission is free. Wyoming Equality will provide some tasty snacks, and a cash bar will be available for you to enjoy a cocktail or two.

We will be having a silent auction on a handful of nifty items to help offset the cost of the event, but mostly we just want you to come and celebrate with us! Save the date and I hope to see all of you in a few short weeks.

Jeran Artery
Director of Social Change

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Are you dancing this season?

I shouldn't be surprised that after announcing Chaz Bono was going to be joining "Dancing With the Stars" the hate group American Family Association is pitching a hissy fit! By the way, (after you watch the clip) don't confuse One Million Moms with a fine upstanding group of loving caring mothers, they are a division of the American Family Association.

Anyway, I don't thinks kids are going to be confused about anything when they see Chaz dancing; and it certainly isn't going to magically turn any of them transgendered simply from just watching. Here we have scare tactics in play, once again, from this group that Southern Poverty Law Center lists as a hate group.

I always want to ask these "moms" why they have so little faith in their children. And by that I mean children are no more likely to become trangendered by learning about or seeing a transgendered person on TV then they are to become Republican, Democrat, Libertarian, Tea Party, Communist or any other group after studying politics in school. These kids will form their own opinions as they grow. Are they also worried that their children will become Nazi's after  studying the Holocaust?

As a society we still have so much to learn about issues LGTB people face. I find as a gay man I still run into a ton of misconceptions. When I came out to my grandmother she got this puzzled look on her face and said, "well you look like a big husky man??" I was like, "I am!" She thought that because I was gay I was wishing that I was a woman. Not so!

I have an older friend in another town who's son recently came out. She called me to talk about it and said, "I just wanted to know if he was the man or woman in the relationship, because I don't think I could handle it if he was the woman." I thought to myself, oh honey, you have so much to learn! I encouraged her to sit down with her son, share her concerns, and let him tell her what was going on with his life.

I can't imagine how difficult it must be to be born in the wrong body with the wrong plumbing. I say cheers and kudos to Chaz Bono for bringing this struggle into the spotlight. I think he has handled this with grace and poise.

I will be watching!


Jeran

Friday, September 2, 2011

Dumb ass of the week award!

One of the things that amazed me at Denver Pride this year was how many churches had set up booths, and really tried to let all the attendees know how much they supported equality within the LGTB community. This is a wonderful trend and I would suspect it will only get bigger and stronger as attitudes continue to evolve.

However, many churches still have a long ways to go! Listen to the rantings of this baptist minister, (if you can stand to) I am shocked that someone like this could actually call himself a Christian. This is pastor Steve Anderson from the Faithful Word Baptist Church in Arizona. This guy is scary!


You know, its bad enough when people go around spreading hate; but I really get hot and bothered when they do it in the name of the Jesus, Allah, or any religion for that matter!


At any rate Pastor Steve Anderson earns my award for dumb ass of the week.

Jeran